The day some of us love, some of us hate, some of us cringe at and some of us gush over, it’s the grand old (over-commercialised) V day woo-woo!
*Just a lil’ disclaimer that these are just my own personal opinions and MY experiences and of course I LOVE seeing people happy and in loveeee* Ok, resume.
Firstly, let’s cut to the chase and stop with this ‘single’ malarky. Although I technically am single, I am also very much NOT single. To be single is to be alone…isolated, however, I am surrounded by the best people in my life and in my mind I am definitely not single. Am I trying to kid myself? Hell no. Today I’m sharing with you why I could not be happier to spend this Valentine’s not in a relationship.
Growing up, I’ve always completely cringed at the idea of Valentine’s Day, you know, stomach churning, toes gripping kinda cringe. At the time, I thought maybe I was just bitter because I’d never experienced being with someone on Valentine’s Day, however, comparing myself to where I was this time last year when I did spend Valentine’s with someone, I can officially confirm, I still very much dislike Valentine’s Day- yikes she’s a tough nut to crack.
Because at the end of the day, how do you expect someone else to love you, if you don’t even love you?
Now, I don’t want to go into this time last year as that was a very weird and poignant time in my life and a place I am miles away from today and to be quite honest, I don’t want to give that period reflection on my blog as this is my positive thoughts place. Maybe I will one day, but not today. However, it is a time I can definitely reflect on and can confirm that those experiences have shaped who I am today- the ‘single’ and better version of me.
Over the past year, I have realised, that learning to love yourself is more important than trying to love someone else first. Selfish? No. Over the past year, I have learnt the importance of loving yourself before anyone else can. Cliche? You may think. But, being in a relationship where I was not confident and I did not love ‘me’ was a constant battle with myself and I do not know how I did it. I’m not saying that I love myself, there is a fine line between confidence and arrogance and confidence is something I have really tried so hard with to improve over this past year. I am happy to have learnt this lesson.
”Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have”
Relationships come and they go. Do I have any regrets from my past relationship? Yes and no. But, at the time that was what I had (thought) I wanted however it’s only now, looking at the bigger picture I realised just how unhappy I really was. I lost myself. And being with someone for the sake of Valentine’s Day is most definitely NOT worth it. And for that, I could not be happier to spend this Valentine’s single. Happier, healthier and with a heavier wallet as I don’t have to invest into that over-priced, over-commercialised chocolate bs. And even if I do, it’s more for me, right?
Anyway, no matter what you’re doing this Valentine’s Day whether it be with your one true love or by yourself or with your pals I hope you have a lovely day filled with the most important form of love; self-love.
Until next time…