Why I couldn’t be happier to spend this Valentine’s Single.

The day some of us love, some of us hate, some of us cringe at and some of us gush over, it’s the grand old (over-commercialised) V day woo-woo!

*Just a lil’ disclaimer that these are just my own personal opinions and MY experiences and of course I LOVE seeing people happy and in loveeee* Ok, resume.

Firstly, let’s cut to the chase and stop with this ‘single’ malarky. Although I technically am single, I am also very much NOT single. To be single is to be alone…isolated, however, I am surrounded by the best people in my life and in my mind I am definitely not single. Am I trying to kid myself? Hell no. Today I’m sharing with you why I could not be happier to spend this Valentine’s not in a relationship.

Growing up, I’ve always completely cringed at the idea of Valentine’s Day, you know, stomach churning, toes gripping kinda cringe. At the time, I thought maybe I was just bitter because I’d never experienced being with someone on Valentine’s Day, however, comparing myself to where I was this time last year when I did spend Valentine’s with someone, I can officially confirm, I still very much dislike Valentine’s Day- yikes she’s a tough nut to crack.

Because at the end of the day, how do you expect someone else to love you, if you don’t even love you?

Now, I don’t want to go into this time last year as that was a very weird and poignant time in my life and a place I am miles away from today and to be quite honest, I don’t want to give that period reflection on my blog as this is my positive thoughts place. Maybe I will one day, but not today. However, it is a time I can definitely reflect on and can confirm that those experiences have shaped who I am today- the ‘single’ and better version of me.

Over the past year, I have realised, that learning to love yourself is more important than trying to love someone else first. Selfish? No. Over the past year, I have learnt the importance of loving yourself before anyone else can. Cliche? You may think. But, being in a relationship where I was not confident and I did not love ‘me’ was a constant battle with myself and I do not know how I did it. I’m not saying that I love myself, there is a fine line between confidence and arrogance and confidence is something I have really tried so hard with to improve over this past year. I am happy to have learnt this lesson.

”Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have”

Relationships come and they go. Do I have any regrets from my past relationship? Yes and no. But, at the time that was what I had (thought) I wanted however it’s only now, looking at the bigger picture I realised just how unhappy I really was. I lost myself. And being with someone for the sake of Valentine’s Day is most definitely NOT worth it. And for that, I could not be happier to spend this Valentine’s single. Happier, healthier and with a heavier wallet as I don’t have to invest into that over-priced, over-commercialised chocolate bs. And even if I do, it’s more for me, right?

Anyway, no matter what you’re doing this Valentine’s Day whether it be with your one true love or by yourself or with your pals I hope you have a lovely day filled with the most important form of love; self-love.

Until next time…

Charlotte x


This post is not sponsored. All views and opinions are my own.

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